The Desire to Experience Love and Connection

This is the desire to feel love, to feel a deep sense of connection.

The fundamental pain when this desire is not fulfilled is one of loss or sadness. Loss can develop into a sense of desperation and feelings of unfairness, disappointment, betrayal and resentment.

As people move towards fulfilling this desire, feelings of unfairness and disappointment dissolve as expectations in relationships are less and less built on needs and wounds, and are more and more based on a present-time enjoyment of love and connection. As connection becomes easier, a sense of self-trust develops, so that old feelings of betrayal and resentment – which were designed to protect against future recurrence of past hurts – are no longer needed as forms of protection. Instead, you can have a sense of self-trust that allows you to choose when to connect and when not to connect in ways that you find empowering. As these internal resources develop, you may discover that you can appreciate the connections in your life as they are, and have a deepening sense of enjoying the love and relationships in your life.

When this desire is fulfilled, a person can feel a profound sense of love grounded in self-trust. A deep knowing of the strength of your own heart emerges, and appreciation of the people in your life becomes the natural basis of your relationships.

Client Experiences

"As I left their office after my first visit that day, my heart’s physical pain was gone. I felt safe and free. My visits are still continuing, and a change has come into my soul, a welcome joy has penetrated its darkness. My relationship with my granddaughters is much improved as well. It is such a gift! It feels like a miracle!" Read more...
        - Anita

"...Usually I would have reached for a cigarette right after talking to my mother!  The remarkable thing is that I did not even realize until the next day that I didn't even think about having a cigarette. That is truly amazing."  Read more...
        - Karen

"It seems that my getting grounded in what I need has resulted in things turning out better for everyone."  Read more...
        - Judy