The Desire to Experience Self Acceptance & Belonging

This desire is for acceptance, belonging and community. Internally it’s the sense of self-acceptance – of just being OK with yourself. Externally it’s the sense of being part of a community, and of being empowered to joyfully contribute to that community.

The fundamental pain associated with this desire is shame – the feeling that there is something wrong with us. We can also feel ‘heartsick' - the feeling that there is something wrong in the external world, which we experience as our own pain.

As people move towards fulfilling this desire, they can develop an increasing acceptance of their physical body, acceptance of their emotions, needs, desires and thoughts, and even greater acceptance of their history and past actions. This naturally leads to better self-care and appropriate attention to your own needs in relation to others. As this self-acceptance moves out into your sense of yourself in community, it develops into greater ease in being seen and expressing yourself in the world. This also includes a greater willingness to receive from others and to experience pleasure. Paradoxically, improved self-care and a greater willingness to receive from others actually leaves you more empowered, more able to contribute to your community and to make a difference in the world.

With an increasing sense of acceptance – both of oneself and of the world – people often find that healthy weight loss becomes a natural process. Chronic inflammation may begin to clear up and mysterious physical symptoms may ease.

When this desire is fulfilled, a person can feel a profound sense of self-acceptance and acceptance of the world as it is. Surprisingly, you may discover that you become more empowered to express yourself and to make a difference in the world – in ways that are supportive of yourself and empowering for those around you.

Client Experiences

"Oh, Rachel, what adventures I have been having! The last time I saw you we worked on being seen/seeing, and I have been having a revolution. It feels like we hit the mother load. I am awed. I taught three days in a row at the dojo (karate school), all of which went spectacularly well. I stayed present, did not fight myself while teaching, had no panic, was able to be relaxed and responsive appropriately in the moment. Wow!!!" Read more...
     - Susan

"In that moment I was able to verbalize something that I had been feeling but hadn't told anyone before. I had all kinds of negative ideas about sex that I picked up early on during my childhood and they kept running through my mind every time I was with someone... My experience brought me to a whole new level of self expression that is not just limited to sexuality, but carries over into every aspect of my life."  Read more...
        - Liz

"As I acknowledged those past emotions and experiences, my physical symptoms began to alleviate themselves. My periods have finally begun to regulate and I have entered into my first intimate relationship in a long time."  Read more...
        - Penny

Support for Your Journey

We can support you in fulfilling this and your other desires through individual sessions.